Acne and I have a long, complicated relationship.
She first introduced herself during my teen years in quite a furry. I went from having smooth-as-a-baby’s-bum skin to pimply skin almost overnight.
It was hormones, I was told. And they were right. But I wasn’t excited about this new friend and look I had acquired–one that I couldn’t seem to get rid of. And Clean & Clear just didn’t cut it.
Not only did I now have these lovely little white bumps covering every square inch of my t-zone, my skin also produced a ton of oil, and my complexion had an uneven, reddish color. You know, the look you get when you’ve been bawling your eyes out. I now know that this is a sign of inflammation.
Oh, and lets not even talk about blackheads. I’ll just say nothing–no strip or cream or magic potion–could remove those nasty little boogers.
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A couple of years ago I felt small.
Brance and I had moved our little family from a rural part of the country (where I had grown up and lived my entire life) to the happening northeast city of Boston.
It took a good year for me to feel completely acclimated to my new environment. By which I mean, not feeling like I was taking my life in my hands every time I drove my car. And public transportation and I are now dear friends, but it wasn’t always so.
All the while, we had a new baby and preschooler I was trying to teach. Brance’s dad had recently passed away. We had left family and friends far behind. And Boston winters! I was not prepared for the depression that would set in from months of being cooped up (thank goodness I have since discovered the “miracle” of vitamin D and walks!).
But I think the hardest thing of all was the betrayal that we experienced again and again by people who claimed to be Christian. Many who were leaders, pastors even, in the Church. It was awful.
The thing that tipped the scale, though, was Continue reading
One thing I’ve learned that has helped me immensely is to view any challenge or failure I face as an opportunity. It’s so good, that when I began doing this several years ago, it literally transformed my life.
This is not something I did in the past and it made for bumpy ride–an unhappy, bumpy ride.
In the past, I sought perfection and every time I faced a challenge or failure I would feel discouraged or defeated. I would focus on what was wrong and how my life wasn’t perfect. Doing so left me unhappy and it kept me from truly living. It also kept me from taking good, healthy risk.
And then, a beautiful thing happened. I learned a different way and was finally able to reclaim my life and happiness!!!
- I learned to look at the difficulties I faced in life differently–to view them as opportunities for growth.
- I learned to no longer be defined by what was going on around me–be it bad or good.
- I learned that my value doesn’t hang on the opinions and approval of others.
- I learned that if I couldn’t be happy in the present, right dab in the midst of whatever was going on in life, I would never be happy.
- I learned that thankfulness is a gift from God that has the power to transform our hearts.
And so, finally, I learned the secret to being content regardless. Even when things don’t go my way. Even when faced with challenge and failure.
When I finally stopped viewing challenge and failure as doom and I stopped looking to my circumstances for happiness, things brightened immensely. Not that my life got any easier or my circumstances magically improved. My perspective did and that was enough.
I assume that all of us have experienced rejection at some point in life. We were dumped by a boyfriend or girlfriend. Or, even worse, our spouse walked away.
Even if we were one of the fortunate few to meet and marry and stay married to our first love, we’ve certainly experienced rejection from a friend or a family member at some point.
Like it or not, rejection just comes with the territory of being alive.
And if we are completely honest, most of us have ended a relationship/friendship for some reason ourselves. Although ending a relationship isn’t necessarily painless, it is typically more difficult to be on the receiving end of rejection, right?
There is something incredibly difficult about being the one left. Something that compels us to Continue reading