In a recent study, Facebook discovered that those who passively consume their newsfeed are more miserable than those who interact with others—especially with comments.
Surprised? I’m not the least bit surprised!
Because, *most* (I realize it is not all) people who comment on FB are saying nice things and lifting people up.
I believe with all my heart that it comes down to the following principle…
Blessed are those who bless others.
I try to do this—to bless others with my words and actions, in social media and all of life. Now, I admit, I do not do this perfectly. I’m human and I have messed up big-time in the past.
BUT, in recent years, I have prayerfully attempted to be very intentional about using my words for good. And I have found that as I encourage and lift up others, I rarely, if ever, feel miserable or jealous! And when I do, it’s because I have grown slack in this area.
When we lift up and bless and encourage people around us, we lift up ourselves. Every single time.
It’s impossible to feel jealous and miserable when we want good for others, when we cheer others on, when we use our words and actions to bless.
And if the person doesn’t respond or appreciate our kindness? It’s OKAY!! It really, truly is.
It’s always, always better to be a person who blesses others—even when they won’t or can’t (for whatever reason) reciprocate or appreciate kindness. I know it can sting a bit in the moment. But in the long-run, it’s so much better for YOUR heart and soul to let their behavior GO and continue to bless others. It’s healing, even, to do so.
Because, when we are stingy with our words and actions, we become miserable and jealous. Ironically, when we withhold them from others and cling to them for ourselves, we actually end up with LESS. Less joy and peace and contentment.
INSTEAD, when we choose to pour out our words and deeds to bless others (even those who don’t “deserve” our kindness), they are multiplied and poured down onto our OWN heads as well. Not only is the other person blessed, but we are filled to the brim with joy and peace and contentment. It becomes the gift that gives back.
And that’s something that can’t be manufactured or wrapped in a box.
Wishing you a VERY Merry Christmas,
P.S. This is not a principle I came up with on my own. My own natural inclination is to think about myself and only be kind to those who are kind to me. It’s something I have learned and applied from studying the Bible and through prayer.
P.P.S. If you don’t have your own copy of the Bible and would like one, I’d love to give one to you. Just leave a comment below!