How are you!? Are you in part of the country that was slammed with frigid temperatures the last week? Brrr. I couldn’t believe how cold it got here in Charlotte—all the way down to 11 degrees! That makes sense in Boston. But Charlotte!?
Most of our serious winter gear is still in storage because I didn’t think we would need it. So we have been layering and staying warm the best we can. Thank goodness the forecast is predicting warmer days right around the corner.
Oh, by the way, we’ve moved! I’m not sure I mentioned this on the blog yet. Because it’s been complicated—unclear to even us—and I wasn’t sure how to explain what’s going on. It’s been a challenge as we’ve interacted with family and friends…
“Brance and I are separated,” I found myself saying to a girlfriend over the phone recently.
As the words hit my ears, I realized it came out all wrong.
“Uhh, we are living separately for a while. Oh, but not separated permanently or headed towards divorce or anything like that,” I quickly corrected myself.
Brance is wrapping up work in Boston while the girls and I stay with my parents down South. Our land lord substantially increased our rent last fall and we felt this was the best step. But it hasn’t been an easy step.
I feel very blessed to have loving family take us in. They have been so great—emptying closets and drawers and rearranging their schedules to make room for us and our things. But being separated from Brance for the better part of 3 months has given me an incredible appreciation for that man and all he is to the girls and me. Life is sad without him.
Don’t get me wrong. I am not walking around moping or anything. This single parenting thing is serious work. But when I do have a moment of quiet reflection, I realize my life would be very empty without him.
Like so many things in life, we’re uncertain how long this will last. Two more months or four? We’re just not sure. But in the meantime we’re getting really good at sharing life through texts, emails, and FaceTime.
As of now, we think we’ll ultimately settle in the Charlotte area. You know: find work, buy a house, and all four of us be together again! But we’re not entirely certain (of everything but the all four of us)! The girls and I may or may not temporarily be back in Boston. We may find work elsewhere and that would mean living elsewhere too. It’s definitely complicated and we’re praying for direction!
I’ve missed this space and look forward to sharing with you in the New Year! Do any of you have something exciting planned for 2018?