Saying I am sorry has been one of the most beautiful things I have experienced as a parent. And if you have never once apologized to your children you are missing out. Really.
I am not advocating doing things on purpose that require an apology. Yikes. But humbly admitting to your kids when you’ve messed up is hugely important to their spirit and your spirit and the relationship as a whole.
Hands down some of the sweetest bonding moments between myself and my girls have involved me saying I am sorry—admitting when I was wrong.
It happened just yesterday.
I was on the phone with my mom and out of the corner of my eye I thought I saw Haddie give Abigail a shove. Distracted and annoyed I covered the phone and gruffly sent Haddie away to time-out, to be dealt with later, unwilling to hear what she was trying to say.
It wasn’t until after I got off of the phone that it became apparent from both girls that Haddie was helping Abigail. That she was keeping her from stepping on some glass items that were on the floor.
I had messed up. That happens more often than not when I am distracted and impatient. You too?
Haddie was crying and dejected on her bed. I scooped her up in my arms and told her that I had made a big mistake and asked her to forgive me.
Oh my! The hug and kiss I received made my heart just melt. My apology meant the world to her.
If only I could forgive others as readily, completely, and joyfully as this little girl—what a lesson for mommy. And that is a lesson I would have missed out on, if I had brushed my offense under the rug.
Yes, apologizing is humbling and it means admitting we have faults and make mistakes—sometimes big ones.
But as Brance’s deceased father (Papa G to Haddie) was famous for saying, Our children need repentant parents not perfect ones.
How very wise he was.