Update

How are you!? Are you in part of the country that was slammed with frigid temperatures the last week? Brrr. I couldn’t believe how cold it got here in Charlotte—all the way down to 11 degrees! That makes sense in Boston. But Charlotte!?

Most of our serious winter gear is still in storage because I didn’t think we would need it. So we have been layering and staying warm the best we can. Thank goodness the forecast is predicting warmer days right around the corner.

Oh, by the way, we’ve moved! I’m not sure I mentioned this on the blog yet. Because it’s been complicated—unclear to even us—and I wasn’t sure how to explain what’s going on. It’s been a challenge as we’ve interacted with family and friends…

“Brance and I are separated,” I found myself saying to a girlfriend over the phone recently.

As the words hit my ears, I realized it came out all wrong.

“Uhh, we are living separately for a while. Oh, but not separated permanently or headed towards divorce or anything like that,” I quickly corrected myself.

Brance is wrapping up work in Boston while the girls and I stay with my parents down South. Our land lord substantially increased our rent last fall and we felt this was the best step. But it hasn’t been an easy step.

I feel very blessed to have loving family take us in. They have been so great—emptying closets and drawers and rearranging their schedules to make room for us and our things. But being separated from Brance for the better part of 3 months has given me an incredible appreciation for that man and all he is to the girls and me. Life is sad without him.

Don’t get me wrong. I am not walking around moping or anything. This single parenting thing is serious work. But when I do have a moment of quiet reflection, I realize my life would be very empty without him.

Like so many things in life, we’re uncertain how long this will last. Two more months or four? We’re just not sure. But in the meantime we’re getting really good at sharing life through texts, emails, and FaceTime.

As of now, we think we’ll ultimately settle in the Charlotte area. You know: find work, buy a house, and all four of us be together again! But we’re not entirely certain (of everything but the all four of us)! The girls and I may or may not temporarily be back in Boston. We may find work elsewhere and that would mean living elsewhere too. It’s definitely complicated and we’re praying for direction!

I’ve missed this space and look forward to sharing with you in the New Year! Do any of you have something exciting planned for 2018?

With love,

Lauren

4 thoughts on “Update

  1. Dear Lauren:

    I know it’s been difficult; you down there in Charlotte and Brance in Boston but this too shall pass. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. And all the other sweet sayings that hopefully lighten the load. It’s all for a good reason, right? And it will be over in no time.

    And the most important thing is that you are missed here in Boston. We may not have spent that much time together recently, but knowing you’re not up on L Street saddens me. Or the next street over! And we miss the girls, too. So know that you are missed.

    We got to see Brance last week. Finally gave him the little trinket for you. And we got him a Coffee Snob mug. LOL. You know how he is with his coffee. Please call and stay in touch with us. My heart skipped a beat when you said you may come back for a bit. Would love to see you and the gals again soon. Love yeh. Elle

  2. Hi Elle! I hope you and Paul are doing well!

    It’s so good to hear from you! It was such a nice note it made my day. Thank you :). We miss you all as well and hope to see you sometime soon!

    Brance keeps me up to date with the Boston happenings. (Well, the little he has time for.) Which makes me miss Boston and all the nice people we met. So glad he got to see you guys! And how sweet of you to have little gifts for us. That mug sounds perfect!

    Hope you’ve had a cozy winter and things are going well!

    Love,
    Lauren

    1. Hi Emi! How are you!?
      Sadly we’re not going to live in it :(. But it’s beautiful. That is what Brance is finishing up in Boston. He’s so close. We should share some pics once it’s finished!

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