When you mess up and beautiful relationships

Brance and LaurenYou guys, I mess up and say things I shouldn’t and get selfish—on a daily basis.

I am not the only one, right ;)?

Some days are better than others. And over time I hope I am messing up less and growing in patience, kindness, and self-control.

But, regardless of my growth, the truth is this. While living on planet earth, there will be times I mess up. Sometimes worse than others.

In Christian circles we call these mess-ups sin.

Yet, regardless of what you call them, I am sure that we can all agree that they aren’t good. And if they’re ignored and left unaddressed, they can cause major trouble for us and our relationships.

We would hope that those who love us would bear with us with patience and loving-kindness when we screw up. But they are only human too, with their own set of mess-ups.

So what are we to do as we learn and grow?

What are we to do when we mess up AGAIN?

The answer is incredibly simple and incredibly difficult all at the same time. Yet it has the power to keep our lives and relationships healthy and strong like nothing else.

And when practiced for the first time, it has the power to transform even the most difficult of circumstances.

The answer:

Admit you were wrong and apologize with no strings attached.

No “I am sorry, BUTS”. None.

I believe so much of the dysfunction in relationships would be completely avoided if we practiced this. That so many more couples would make it 5 years, then 10 years, then 50.

And I am telling you, we are finding marriage to get sweeter with time and age on many fronts. Studies show that the happiest couples are the ones that make it the long-haul.

And I really believe it’s this little practice of repentance that makes beautiful, healthy, long-lasting relationships possible.



How do you deal with mess-ups (your own and others’) and what things have done to make your relationships stronger?

One thought on “When you mess up and beautiful relationships

  1. So true!!! I find I have to apologize to my kids the most. And those ones are the easiest to say the “I’m sorry, buts”. Must eliminate that phrase from my vocabulary.

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